Ep. 48: Setting A Sexy Tone



If you think about this time of year, depending on where you live, something you may experience is snow. This is something that I’m thinking about this week as it’s predicted for Portland. Talking to people about the possibility and hearing the tone they use when they say the word “snow” has got me thinking about how the way we say a word can impact how we feel.

The same thing applies to sex and having pleasure. When you say the word sex, what kind of tone do you have? Is it one of dread? Pleasure? Excitement? I want to share with you how the tone affects our body and how we think about sex, and what you can do to change it.

Topics in this episode

The tone changes the story in our head

The tone that we have when we’re talking about sex, this is going to set up the way that sex feels to you.

Your tone is going to guide your body about how you want to feel about it.

How do you want your body to feel about sex?

It’s not just sex – it’s also how you think about yourself

Uncovering negative associations and how to heal from them

You have the power to change your tone

This week I want you to practice saying “sex” and other words regarding pleasure. Say it in the mirror, or in the car. If it’s something you want to crave, think about how you might say something you already do crave. If it’s something you want to find pleasurable, then say it the way you already say something you do find to be pleasurable.